Hey guys! Wow can you believe it’s the middle of April already? Last month we were talking about spring cleaning while there was still some frost on the ground. Before you know it summer will be upon us! Our topic for this month is what makes ME happy. I’ll admit I wasn’t too keen on this topic. I had no clue what I’d write about that I haven’t already in our November posts. The truth of the matter for me is I suffer from depression. Not the having a bad day I need a good cry depression. The debilitating, psychiatrist prescribes meds kind of severe depression. It isn’t something I talk about, I simply cope and try to manage myself. Finding and talking about what makes me happy did not sound like a good idea, I must have been having a downward day.
As I write this post I am reveling in all of the warm weather we have been having. I hope you’ve been enjoying your spring thus far. The sunshine and warm weather always seem to perk me up. I find myself with more energy and enjoying life a bit more during spring time than the other seasons.
The warm weather and sunshine seem to shine a light on life a bit better. I find myself smiling more and in a better mood, for the most part. So what makes ME happy? Not my kids, not my blessings, but what do I enjoy for myself?.
I absolutely miss my sunny SoCal beaches but the forest where I live is filled with wonder. There are trails, rivers, mountains (ok hills for the Rocky Mountain natives), forests and majestic waterfalls all around. Hiking to a spot like this, while sweaty and sometimes exhausting, fills my happy cup every time. I look forward to more spring hikes before the tourists show up and crowd our lovely nature.
It took spending half the morning alone, outside of our house to realize I really am happy with him. It isn’t because he’s my husband and I am suppose to love him and always be happy (we are SO not always happy together). We were simply running some errands and spending time together, enjoying the beautiful weather and little town we live in. Being silly with AJ totally falls on my personal happy list.
I found this image here and how appropriate and true it is! In my car, at home, in my head… I LOVE music. Dancing, singing (not always the written lyrics), and creating music make me happy. I have always been involved in music since I was about 10 years old. I can play a handful of instruments and have been in a few choirs. I am by no means a professional but I don’t have to be in order for music to be on my happy list!
This right here says it all! It must tie into my love of music because Zumba is a blast! I’m sure part of it is also the amazing support of my gym Tribe but man it’s great! I may walk out sore and sweaty but I will have a smile on my face (or Jen might give us extra burpees next class).
I know this isn’t about my family, but part of my happiness is my family. When I am down and feel alone, forgotten and wonder what is the point. I try to remember what I have learned and become as a daughter of God. Our family has been sealed together for time and all eternity. The peace I find inside this knowledge and inside the temple helps lift my mood every time.
These are a few of my happy moments and places. For mental health it is vital to not only be grateful but to mark those things which make us happy. Find time to do something you enjoy, something which makes YOU happy. What are some things you do for yourself to find happiness in your day?
Next month we are doing a blogger interview. Would you like to be interviewed and featured in my blog? Would you like to interview a fellow blogger (doesn’t have to be me) and join us? I have questions all ready for you too! Let me know!
You guys I’m so excited about this month’s collab post! Spring cleaning is something that happens about every season around my house! If you’ve been to my house in the winter it may look completely different in the spring. This year is no different.
Truth be told I hadn’t anticipated moving the furniture, I thought I was happy with my current arrangement. Everything changed when I brought out the carpet cleaner! We’ve been living without a carpet cleaner for longer than I care to admit. I finally found one at a decent price with great reviews. I moved all of the furniture out of my dirtiest living space, the front room, and went to work.
These are photos of my carpet before cleaning but after moving the furniture out. Gross, I know. I won’t show you the gobs of hair and pet fur this beast grabbed out of the carpet. It isn’t brand new but dang this is a great looking room again!
It was while I was cleaning the carpet I decided I wanted a change. I wanted the furniture back in the living room with the piano and gas fireplace. The big picture window is nice for looking out but the room felt too separate from the rest of our living space. So AJ and Dawn helped me move the pool table into the front room. Voila!
Of course the pool table was fully cleaned off and I am loving the new arrangement. We rehung the tv on the wall in the living room and it feels more like home.
Admittedly this was my biggest spring cleaning project to date. It was nice and warm here for a little while but Mother Nature decided to knock us back after springing our clocks forward. So I’ve put a lot of my major spring cleaning on hold for now.
I have been cleaning out closets of games, toys, shoes and clothes no one uses anymore. Those items are being collected in the garage to be donated locally. Purging the house of items we no longer use has been on my to do list for awhile and what better time than spring cleaning to clear it all out?
I will be cleaning the carpets in each of the other rooms when the temperature rises again, no sense in having wet carpets with below freezing temps outside.
Some of my other spring cleaning chores will be done this month and others will need to wait for warmer weather. Here are some of my regular “spring cleaning” tasks:
Scrub inside of washing machine
Move washer and dryer to clean floors underneath
Hose down screens
Clean window wells
Pressure wash outside house
Turn over mattresses
Clean window sills, under glass
Check sink traps
Clear outside AC unit
Wash windows in and out
Play outside with the kids
My lists are always adapting to our busy lives. I don’t have a list I use each year simply a task list of items as I notice they need to be addresssed.
What are some of your spring cleaning tasks? Have you started spring cleaning yet? Link up with us and share your spring cleaning ideas and tips. Also see below for our schedule for upcoming collab posts.
I try so hard to only get what is on my list when I go shopping. Sometimes I will find something I didn’t even know I needed and thus have to have! (OK maybe not NEED but desperately desire…) I have decided to share these adventures and finds with you. Thus begins my Fabulous Friday Finds! They may not all be fabulous so I’ll call them Friday finds.
Today’s find is brought to you from Target… I was actually looking for something completely different when I saw this bad boy. A skirt/trouser hanger! I was intrigued, I love my skirts but they take up so much space in my closet. For the price I figured it was worth a shot.
This is a section of my closet where I have pencil and circle skirts hanging. Yes I use those cheap store clip hangers but hey why not, they work. I save a bit on space by putting two skirts on one hanger.
Now I can get FIVE skirts on one hanger! WOOT! They are folded neatly over the bars. Which by the way, the bars unclip on one end and have a hinge on the other to avoid pulling multiple skirts off the hanger at once. Score!
As you can see my skirts are loving their new home and I am enjoying the new found space in my closet. Time to get a second or possibly third one for the rest of my skirts. Then what will I do with all of the empty space?
This find has been brought to you by my curiosity and desire to reorganize my closet every six months. It is in no way sponsored by Target or the Threshold company (I think that’s who makes this hanger…)
What are some of your favorite finds? Share them! Follow along for next weeks Friday Finds as well.
The world is full of advice and helpful hints, on and off line. The trouble is figuring out what is helpful and what is utter nonsense. In this mini series I have asked some fellow moms in virtual reality and some of my own close friends for their experiences and tips. Together we are talking about and helping you tackle parenthood and giving it to you straight up. Follow along for the Real Talk as we dish out to you here on my blog.
Settle in and let’s get started with part one… pregnancy. My first little tidbit applies to all of topics in this series and is this; EVERYONE has an opinion. <insert eye roll> Seriously! Complete strangers will stop you and give you advice ALL.THE.TIME. Learn the smile and nod method quickly, it will be used for many years to come.
Congratulations! You’ll hear this for the next 9-10 months. Yep, depending on how you count your pregnancy it will last from 9-10 months.
Let me break this down for you… There are 30 days in the average month, the rest have 30, except that one with 28. How many weeks are in a month? You don’t know? There’s no straight answer? When you are tracking your pregnancy it is by the week, 0-13 weeks is the first trimester, 14-26 weeks is the second trimester, and 27-40+ is your third trimester. Yes nine months and ten months become interchangeable in pregnancy. Save yourself the headache and start counting the pregnancy by weeks, much easier. If you must break it down into months, make each month 4 weeks long, hence the ten months. Let’s face it, when people ask how far along you are, the majority will not be calculating your pregnancy. You’ll know this because the next question is usually “When are you due?”
Around the middle of the 2nd trimester is when these questions begin because you have most likely begun to show your pregnancy. Yay! Baby bumps are cute and adorable, the miracle of life right there for all to see. Somehow this equates to your body suddenly becoming public property. There is something about the pregnant belly bump which says, “please rub me” in our culture… hmmm is that something to do with a Buddha belly? It is completely acceptable for you to say please don’t touch my belly. Become comfortable with speaking your mind, blame the rudeness on the hormones… it is really ok.
You will experience a plethora of emotions. I’m being serious here. I cried watching The Little Mermaid…. dead serious. I also was easily upset by the small things, like a single dish being left in the sink instead of put in the dishwasher. Yep, I admit it.
If watching sappy movies doesn’t make you cry morning sickness might. Such a deceptive name… MORNING sickness implies you will feel ill in the morning… lies! There is no defined time it will hit you… middle of the night while you’re sleeping, cleaning the house, walking around the store… it does not and can not tell time. From about the middle of my first trimester thru the rest of my pregnancy I had morning sickness. For all three of my pregnancies, especially my redheads. It didn’t matter what I did or did not eat, I was nauseous. Even taking a shower made me gag, acid reflux and stomach acid were no friend of mine.
Thankfully by the time I was pregnant with Little Man I had found a few tricks to help ease my stomach. If you find yourself having all day sickness try snacking throughout the day instead of having three big meals. Ginger, in all it’s forms, helped me immensely. Particularly ginger ale and candied ginger. You may not like the taste but it may help.
Even with morning sickness I had pregnancy cravings. They would vary pregnancy to pregnancy as well as day to day. Generally with Dawn I wanted chicken, especially fried chicken. With Little Red I craved pasta, and usually scampi or alfredo style. AJ still says I asked him to buy pickles and ice cream so I could eat them together but I don’t remember that. I did like my pickles during that pregnancy tho. This last time with Little Man it started off as sushi (I didn’t eat it, except a crunch roll here or there) and then faded away to Italian cold cut subs. With each craving I managed to sneak in healthy foods here and there like a salad or a fruit smoothie. Most importantly I drank a ton of water. Of course drinking that much water with a baby pressing on your organs means frequent trips to the bathroom…
Be prepared to lose control over your bladder. Sneezing… coughing… you’ll get a little bit of bladder leak. Kegel exercises will help strengthen those muscles, but let’s be real… buy some liners.
The last little bit of advice from me is you will lose your mind. I mean this literally. Once you are pregnant you slowly begin to lose your memory, it’s called mama brain. I misplaced an entire month one time, yep completely forgot all about March. You are your child’s life support, everything he/she gets is from you. It makes sense they will take part of your brain along with your blood and nutrients. It’s completely worth it!
Here’s a bit of advice from my gal pal Leslie, who had twins by the way!
I didn’t realize how swollen I could get! I had to wear flip flops in winter just to get through the last few months of pregnancy.
I also wasn’t expecting that I’d have my milk come in before delivery. It was just a bit of leaking, but I was very surprised.
Let’s talk Maxi dresses and skirts! Those were perfect for wearing throughout my entire pregnancy! I felt stylish, but oh so comfortable! Throw on a maxi dress and flip flops and you’re all set!
It was amazing to see the babies move in my tummy! It was an “alien” experience — but oh so wonderful! I remember worrying about the lack of movement toward the end, but that is normal as the baby (in my case, 2) run out of space.
I felt wonderful during pregnancy! My hair was more shiny, my skin was superb and I felt emotionally so very happy! Getting to the point of motherhood was a big hill to climb, so I think I was more forgiving of all the aches and pains.
Stretch marks…none of mine showed up until the 8th month. Then they just seemed to show up overnight. I was super careful about lotions — didn’t want any toxins; so just be aware.
Food! I ate whatever I wanted. I didn’t gain much weight, so I decided to just eat what felt right. Your body will have cravings, just balance them out with good food choices. I ate something raw with every meal and then ate that brownie if I wanted it!
I felt exponentially better when I stayed hydrated; very important.
My baby sister Elizabeth is the most recent first time mama I know and she has some great advice to share already!
Sleep. Sleep. Sleep
Forgive your husband because he just doesn’t get it. He does his best. Be patient with him. And really when he says something stupid…. just forgive him.
Save your money! Don’t buy expensive stretch mark cream. Use coconut oil ALLLLL over your belly every single day. I did and I didn’t get any stretch marks.
Enjoy every second. It goes by quick. You feel like you have been pregnant for years, but once it’s over, it feels like it just flew by.
Pregnancy advice quick view
full term pregnancy is 9-10 months, 40 weeks = 10 months, 4 weeks each
EVERYONE has an opinion
“How far along are you?” and “When are you due?” are interchangeable, sometimes used together, questions.
Your baby bump will somehow become “public property”.
Hormones will mess you up, emotionally and physically.
Stretch marks can be prevented
Drink lots of water
Find comfy clothes, maxi skirts and dresses are great
Take care of yourself
Cravings are normal and your body’s way of communicating
Pregnancy brain is real and will turn into mama brain.
Pregnancy is a life and body changing wonderful experience
Sleep is important
Trust your body
Your bladder will leak… no matter how often you use the bathroom
Love your significant other… and yourself!
I hope you’ve learned a few things, laughed a little (oops… hope you have a liner on), and found some helpful advice in our real talk. Do you have any tips or advice you’d like to add? Share with us. This is part 1 of the mini series. Part 2 will be about labor and delivery. If you’d like to contribute your tips for any part of this mini series, let’s talk!
Ever see those photos and blogs of the amazing stay at home moms and their fantastically cleaned houses? You know the ones I’m talking about… not a speck of dust, everything neatly put away, children eating from fine dinnerware laden with a plethora of brightly colored vegetables, everyone neatly dressed, hair finely combed… admit it, you know what I’m talking about…. it’s lifestyle porn at it’s finest… or worst… but I digress.
Admittedly at times I am envious of those moms (until I read this post). It’s so true, we don’t know what is happening behind the scenes in anyone’s blogs, Instagram or other social media accounts. Heck if you could see me now you’d see snack crumbs across the table, clean laundry folded on the pool table, kid dishes and tupperware containers strewn across the kitchen floor… and this is within my current unmoving view. I have a vague idea on what is for dinner tonight but things may change as the day progresses. At least I’m thinking about it in the morning instead of 30 minutes before dinner time!
Unfortunately, there are times the hubby gets home and I have no inclination what we are having for dinner. Thank the good Lord above my fabulous Mr Salisbury knows how to cook! I’m pretty good at making meals and fabulous with baking but 75% of the time I need a recipe. Not my man! Give him an idea and he makes a meal (albeit usually without vegetables, but my kids won’t eat them anyway). The kids wanted enchiladas for dinner and bam a little under an hour later we have a scrumptious enchilada plate akin to eating out! Rice, refried beans and his personal touch of chipotle sautéd onions. He seasoned and cooked up some chicken for the enchiladas as well. Dinner was delicious!! Nights like these I’m so glad he knows how to cook and is willing to come home from his day job to help me out around the house.
This is my plate of food. After I started eating it I decided to take a picture to share with you all. It was that good! Everyone should be so lucky to have a partner like I do!
For the new year I changed up my blog and am self-hosting now! Welcome to Simply Salisbury! This is a change I have been wanting to make for quite some time now. Yes I know it isn’t on my goals of things to do before I’m 40 but man it should be!
After much contemplation and deliberation for the blog topics, title and name I decided on something easy and I adore my alliterations (see what I did there?)
There are plans made for this blog. Things will get exciting around here! Stay tuned for:
Real Talk mini series
More mommy blog collabs
photo shoot bloopers
dog rescue and fosters
product reviews & giveaways
I’m looking forward to what this new year and new blog will bring and allow me to share with you. Make sure you are following along so you don’t miss out!
Dirty dishes scattered across the counters, and more cups than there are people in the house! How does that happen? Lunch bins not making it back home? Shoes go missing? I am still trying to understand how that happens. Kids fighting over who’s toy it is, because you had to buy two of the same thing so they wouldn’t fight over it. Ugh the battles go on. Enter StickerKid to the rescue!
StickerKid is another SharkTank success story and based in the USA!
We received stickers for our family to try and review. The kids (ok me too) were pretty excited to create their own sticker labels. The process online for ordering was simple and straight forward. There was no question what our stickers would look like. You can see what you are creating live online as you make changes! Here’s what we ended up with.
We chose a bundle and added a few extra sheets for everyone to have some. We have small name stickers for around the house and smaller items for the kids. Last name labels for our family items, in Army signal orange of course!
K has a frog on his sticker labels for all of his items we take with us. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve left something at the gym or church and lost it forever 🙁
Dawn has music notes on her DV red and black stickers, these are iron on labels which is good for her since she is in marching band.
S has shoe stickers with a pink princess on a unicorn, on a pink background with pink writing of course. Are there other colors in the world?
We put some stickers on S’s smock for art at school. Dawn has some of her dark blue small name labels in her marching band shoes (she lost them for over a week this year).
K will have some on his cups and toys. I’m excited to see how well they stand up to being washed but for now they are standing up to the usage. My kids are not gentle by any means so this is a win!
Well done StickerKid! Check out their products by clicking on their badge on the right hand side of my blog under affiliates. There’s something for everyone!